March Forward on Solid Ground
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love.
In this edition: March Forward on Solid Ground (Making Choices Grounded in Realistic Expectations)
Perspective – Predicting Potential Outcomes
Practical Tactics – Calculating Risk & Reward
Predictability is the Squares' Root.
Perspective —Predicting Potential Outcomes
The future isn't 100% guaranteed or safe when you're deciding about making a commitment with someone special or making a life-changing decision with your partner. But you can consider probable consequences with each step. You can decide whether a possible reward is worth a possible risk.
Case in point: A couple I know started dubiously. He was military, she was all flowy artistry. Their passion displayed in heated desire and volatile arguments. But their values and dreams aligned. Neither thought the other "ideal" but they were drawn to each other irresistibly. They considered the consequences of continuing together or splitting up. They chose each other and gradually synced up with each other harmoniously.
As newlyweds, they contended with a tough choice to rehome the wife's dog. Through counseling, they decided to hand the pup to a more suitable owner.
Practical Tactics — Calculating Risk & Reward
While not an exact science, methods of wise decision making are available to both uncoupled-and-seeking and the already-partnered.
It starts with diving into your deepest desires and fears associated with pursuing options.
If you're uncoupled and seeking, ask yourself questions like:
What qualities do I really want in a partner that surpass any changes they might go through? (Wealth, health, looks may change, among other qualities).
Essentially, is this person someone who you believe in no matter what happens?
Will being with this person wrench you away from fulfilling your own destiny, or would doing life together work with your personal goals, even if some aspects don't match your ideals?
Even worse, does being with them put you in danger?
The same ideas apply to making joint decisions with your partner, as in these examples:
How badly do you want children? What sacrifices or risks are you willing to make? What preparations or resources can you gather to create lower risk-factors if you proceed?
Or, that food truck you want to run together...how badly do you want specifically that, or are you just trying to escape from the rat race...even though feeding "rats" comes with its own challenges? If it fails, will you be glad that you tried for a season?
Coupled or not, these approaches are similar to calculating potential returns on investment, or ROIs. And if you have a strong intuition, you can lean into that strength to get a gut sense or whether or not it feels right or something feels "off".
If you desire or fear to move forward, looking squarely at probable consequences will ground your footing on the path forward.
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