Yes, You May
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love.
In this edition: Yes, You May
Perspective – Getting What You Desire
Practical Tactics – Permission to Let Go of Sabotaging Influences
You May Take Steps Forward Toward Love
Perspective – Getting What You Desire
Many of us have funny feelings around what we truly want. Maybe aspects of our upbringing conditioned us to feel a sense of unworthiness, guilt, fear of betraying or disrespecting parents, thinking "it's too hard", or "it's unrealistic". These thoughts often lie buried hidden within us, lurking... yet still steering us away from healthy romantic partnership.
When parents are empathetic, they wish us to have what is best for us, especially for the long run. They champion our search for fulfilling love.
Case in point: Many years ago, I conversed with a stranger on a bus. She was 60+ years old, and strikingly beautiful. She told her story of how she had never married, because her parents had forbidden her to date outside of their ethnic community. She never met anyone within her community that she was that interested in, and she ended up caring for her parents until they passed away, though her siblings all got married and had children.
She didn't care about ethnicity in mate-selection, except that it would have alienated her parents. Now deceased, their values still overshadowed her own. She felt it was too late to enter into romantic love.
While there could've been hidden pressures and complications in her situation, her wistful resignation touched me and has stayed with me.
Practical Tactics – Permission to Let Go of Sabotaging Influences
Memories of authority figures that we don't believe wanted to give us what we deeply desired can haunt us.
But personal growth methods that insist on troubleshooting on the negative with our hearts and psyches in order to fix them can create a fixation that keeps us stuck on them.
There are other therapy and inner healing approaches that overcome evil with good, without denying that the negative exists.
Here's one idea to shift into opening yourself to the partnership you truly dream of:
Reflect on what you truly want in a long-term relationship.
Envision what it would feel like, what specific rewards you hope for in that partnership.
Identify the line of reasoning, feeling, or fear that discourages that yearning.
Picture the loving authority figure (See the article Mother, May I? for examples) who has the best interests of you and all your associates. This figure is rooting for you to fulfill your passion.
Internalize the approval of that loving force.
Let that loving picture take over the "scene" in your imagination, simply displacing the negative one.
If you're single, go seek love. If you're partnered, ask your partner for what you want.
Acquaint yourself with confidence that what is best for you and your heart is ultimately best for all your connections, past, present, and future.
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